Life Coaching Tip of the Week- Become a Mindset Maven

A few months ago, I was working on creating a mindset workshop for moms that I was planning to call “The Happy Mom”.  I was a recovering grump myself and saw such massive transformation happen when I did a few simple things to change my mindset, and I was dying to help other moms create more happiness in their lives too.  The problem was that due to the current state of the world at the time it suddenly felt completely inappropriate.  How could I talk to people about being happy when life as we knew it had taken such a massive downward turn?!  How could I talk about being happy when people were sick and dying, and everyone was so fearful about this awful virus?  My workshop idea was something that would have to wait for a post-covid world, or so I thought. 

As time went on and my idea collected dust, I just kept hearing the same thing over and over again from friends, family, and moms I work with and coach… “I’m just so overwhelmed.”  Everyone’s lives were already super busy and most people I knew were holding on by a thread in the first place (myself included) but now we were adding drastic career was changes, everyone being home all-day-every-day, financial stress, relationship stress, and the worst of all- HOME SCHOOL. 

We all felt the stress of this time, there was no doubt I was feeling myself slipping into a negative place.  This is when I had the epiphany that my workshop “The Happy Mom” was needed more than ever!  So,  I took my idea and refocused it to help moms with what is relevant now, being a mom in this crazy world we live in today.  I knew that if my mindset was off, and my happiness was dwindling, that other moms definitely were feeling the same way.  I wanted so very badly to help, and got to work.

I’m learning that when we feel most helpless that is when we need to double down on the things we can control.  In this case, that wasn’t much.  I think that’s why this was so tough!  For the first time ever there was so little going on in our lives that we had control over.  Truly, the ONLY thing that we had control over was our own mindset. 

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean

Being a student of mindset work for some time I decided to start by working on myself, and as it happens simply working on the creation of The Mindset Momma workshop series was doing the trick. 

I created this workshop because I understand the struggle.  My goal is to help people squeeze as much happiness out of their lives as possible.  I know from my studies and personal experience that happiness is about mindset and gratitude.  If you want to be happy, you first need to choose to be happy.  Then we need to get grateful for the many wonderful parts of our lives that are already there.  We need to spend less time worrying about whether the glass is half empty or half full and learn to feel grateful that we have a glass in the first place. 

In recent times we’re learning more and more about how our thoughts control our world.  The problem is that we have deep seeded habits that create our thoughts and changing this takes work.  I can promise you that the most important work you will ever do in your life is the work you do to change your mindset.  Change your thoughts, change your world. 

Wanna start to change your mindset?  These are my top mindset “hacks” to change your mindset from bad to good, or from good to great!

1. Self awareness- be aware of your own limiting thoughts and beliefs.  When you are feeling bad, ask yourself what you are thinking about in that moment and if there is another way you could think about it?  Are there things you tell yourself you can’t do or shouldn’t do?  Most of the time when we tell ourselves that we can’t do something it comes from a limiting thought that we’ve imposed on ourselves.  Example, “I could never wear that.” “I couldn’t ever start a business.” “I couldn’t ask for a raise.” Once you are aware of these thoughts you can start to put a plan together to change them.
2. Stop comparing yourself- The comparison game is a REAL problem and controls so much of what we do and how we live. Measure yourself against your own measuring stick! Learn to pay attention to what you love, what you value, and what you believe.  You should only strive to be better than your personal best, not someone else’s best (or someone’s highlight reel we see on social media.)
3. Journal your thoughts- Bad mindset patterns come from bad thought habits. If you really want to figure out where you are struggling it is much easier to do this if you take the time to write your thoughts down.  I’ll be sharing my Mindset Maven journaling prompts with you soon to get you started.  You will be astonished at what this will uncover for you.
4. Set a goal- It’s one thing to make some small changes in your life, but the best way to build your confidence and feelings of self-worth are to set a goal and strive for something. To do this you’ll need to take the habits that aren’t serving you and replace them with new habits that build willpower and self-motivation, and you need to do them consistently.  Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t.  Goal setting will give you a sense of past accomplishments and contribute to a whole lot of personal growth.  Growth and contribution are the keys to fulfillment.
5. Create a gratitude practice- I could preach this one till I’m blue in the face! If you do nothing else, create a gratitude practice for yourself.  The Mindset Momma workshop series will teach a new addition to your gratitude practice each week.  Slowly incorporating these things will change your mind and life for the better without a doubt.  Learning to reframe tough things in your life through grateful eyes will create lasting happiness.  Start by adding a gratitude journal to your routine!  (This will be shared in my Mindset Maven journaling prompts as well.)

Here’s the thing, ladies… no change will happen overnight.  Mindset work is a process and a practice.  The goal isn’t perfection- EVER!  The goal is progress.  Each thing you do to better your mindset will increase your overall happiness and well-being.  The Mindset Momma is the best first steppingstone for you to build this practice, and jump start your new mindset.  For more information look here.

Please use these tips to help you too!   

Grab your Mindset Maven Journaling Prompts HERE!